Disclaimer
This website records the personal experiences of the author and their family, following many years of harmful behaviour by another individual. The events described took place mainly in England and Wales between 1984 and 2023, with particular focus on incidents between 2020–2023. Their effects – emotional, psychological, and financial – are still being felt.
Those that are given the password to review the content are encouraged to approach this material with empathy, seriousness, and understanding. The intention is to protect, inform, and provide clarity, not to incite, harm, score points or gain sympathy.
The content is intended to provide clarity, truth, and context after years of private attempts to seek accountability and answers were unsuccessful. While the individual could often be pleasant, the author and family experienced many troubling behaviours and measurable harm, including coercive control, emotional and psychological abuse, and historic physical violence, directed at different family members at various times of their lives. These behaviours have caused some family:
- PTSD, anxiety, depression, and severe stress
- Suicidal thoughts
- Night terrors
- Shame, self-blame, and fear of confrontation
- Alcohol addiction and related physical harm
- Injuries from violence or fear of violence
- Deep emotional harm from failure to protect a child from sexualised advance from a colleague
On this website there is documented patterns of abuse between 1984 and 2023, which include gaslighting, blame-shifting, projecting, guilt-tripping, stonewalling, financial threats, threats of disownment, showing favouritism, using generosity as emotional leverage, and physical aggression.
The family has also documented here deliberate and deceptive acts including:
- Spending over £26,000 on an affair
- Manipulating three family members (and likely others)
- Falsely accusing others of tracking while sending tracking requests themselves after the event
- Forging a witness signature
- Altering photo metadata to distort timelines
- Recruiting others to help spread misinformation
Some accomplices may have acted without knowing the full truth. Many who know the person may only have seen their public image – generous, charismatic, or respectable – but this site shows documented examples of abusive tactics, rages, and calculated narrative control. The author has observed repeated reframing of events to avoid accountability, alongside unmerited smear campaigns against family members that hold uncomfortable truths about his situation, under the surface behaviours and the events of the past.
The site also records the 2022 discovery of concealed DNA paternity tests hidden in the garage, which the author believes were withheld or distorted to control the narrative. While the intimate aspects of the affair have been omitted out of respect, the full confrontation and aftermath are detailed here.
This website is a last resort, created after every reasonable effort to resolve matters privately failed. Its aim is not revenge or financial harm but moral accountability, truth, and protection of others from being misled. It will be taken down permanently if the individual makes a full public apology and acknowledges and truth to anyone he has misled.
Statements on this site are based on lived experience and supported by diary entries, communications, photos, videos, bank transactions, call recordings, legal documents, and other evidence. References to traits such as narcissism are personal opinions, not clinical diagnoses. Third-party information is included only where relevant and in good faith.
The site is hidden from search engines, intended for a limited audience where it is in their interest, and may be shared only with those misled by the individual’s actions. Names and identifying details have been anonymised where possible. Respectful, calm dialogue is welcomed from those seeking the full picture, especially those who may have been influenced by the individual’s false version of events. All original emails and documents can be shared on request should there be any doubt about the authenticity of events.
This site is governed by the laws of England and Wales. Any attempts to intimidate, retaliate, or suppress the author’s right to speak out will have consequences – the family may not exercise such restraint on remedies they may pursue as a last resort to protect their truth. Parts of this content may also be made public to counter false claims, tell their side of the story generally as an abuse awareness campaign and protect the reputation of the author and family.
Finally, it is truly hoped that the individual will not inflame, an already delicate, situation further and instead ultimately fully acknowledge and own his destructiveness, deceit, deliberate evasiveness and impacts of their own actions to the other party and anyone else he has misled.
Thank you.